Happy Halloween! Here is a Reader’s Digest joke for you that isn’t scary.
Q: The maker of this product does not want it, the buyer does not use it, and the user does not see it. What is it?
A: A coffin.
Episode Notes
October 27th was National Mentoring Day. I retrieved this groundbreaking conversation from the archives to elevate mentoring and acknowledge two luminaries in the field of mentoring excellence. A mother-and-daughter team focused on inclusion. Dr. Lois Zachary discusses her background, defines mentoring and the difference between coaching and mentoring, and four key concepts that can bridge differences in mentoring relationships.
I say ‘groundbreaking conversation’ because in 1972 when Dr. Lois Zachary started her career, there were over 400,000 women-owned businesses in America. Today, more than 13 million businesses are owned by women thanks to women like Dr. Lois Zachary, who pioneered a path for us.
Her daughter, Lois Fain, is the new CEO of the Center for Mentoring Excellence to role model what they preach, teach, and write about in Bridging Differences for Better Mentoring. Their newest and first co-authored book.
Dr. Lois Zachary is an internationally recognized expert on mentoring and has been cited as “one of the top 100 minds in leadership” today. You’ve likely seen mention of Dr. Zachary’s books, or read her quotes, in The New York Times, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, Financial Times, Inc. magazine, T&D, Leadership Excellence, The Chronicle of Higher Education, or other business and leadership news outlets.
“Mentors and mentees may come from different backgrounds and have a limited understanding of each other’s cultures and outlooks, but mentorship remains one of the most powerful tools for inclusion, professional development, and talent retention,” writes Dr. Lois Zachary and Lisa Fain.
Listen as we focus on how Lois Zachary became the author, Ph.D. graduate, and entrepreneurial leader who founded Leadership Development Services, LLC and its Center for Mentoring Excellence. You will also learn Dr. Zachary’s definition of mentoring, the difference between coaching and mentoring, and four key concepts that bridge differences in mentoring relationships. You will also learn that she has a supportive husband, Ed. They married within six months of meeting in 1969 and have two adult children.
Mentoring Definition
Dr. Zachary and her daughter, Lisa Fain, define mentoring as “a reciprocal learning relationship in which a mentor and mentee agree to a partnership where they work collaboratively toward achievement of mutually defined goals that will develop a mentee’s skills, abilities, knowledge, and/or thinking.” They focus on “four key concepts that relate most closely to bridging differences in a mentoring relationship: reciprocal, learning, relationship, and partnering.” Tune in to learn more about these four key concepts. Also, learn how adults make meaning and a big reveal at the end of our conversation. A hint, guess her maiden name. DOWNLOAD
NEXT STEP: Challenge yourself and do the Conscious Attentive Leadership Mentoring (C.A.L.M.) Activities, below.
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Conscious Attentive Leadership Mentoring
After listening, do these three C.A.L.M. Activities:
- Take this risk or do this adventurous task: The first step in starting a mentoring relationship is preparing. Are you ready to begin a mentoring relationship? Start with a short self-analysis inventory. List some leadership successes you have had. Identify where you are right now and, based on where you notice limitations. Ask yourself, what would I like to shift? Write down what comes up. Decide if you are ready for a mentor. Most people find that once they start a mentoring relationship, they wish they would’ve started sooner. Are you in that camp? If so, connect with Lisa Fain at the Center for Mentoring Excellence, or connect with me if you need help growing your business.
- Apply Self-Compassion: Sit quietly and reflect on what you wrote above. As you gently breathe in for six counts and exhale for eight counts, focus on steadying your breath. No gasping or grasping; focus on steady counting breaths with ease. After ten minutes, ask yourself if you are ready to take the next step.
- Welcome Appreciation: “I appreciate the openness and insights Dr. Lois Zachary brought into our conversation. I appreciate her enthusiasm and courage in pioneering a path for me and many others in mentoring, adult learning, and leadership. Through her perspiration, she has been our inspiration. Thank you for continuing to share your gifts and forge new ways for us to deepen our mentoring relationships and cherish our differences.”
Your Turn. Start with, “I appreciate what I heard from today’s Guest Mentor, Dr. Lois Zachary. I appreciate this week’s adventurous task because…”
“Most of the problems in our lives and world are caused by relational dysfunction, a dysfunction in how we relate: as social groups, as individuals, to animals and the environment, and even to ourselves. Therefore, developing relational literacy—the understanding of and ability to practice healthy ways of relating—is essential for personal, social, and ecological transformation.” —Melanie Joy, psychologist, author, theorist, educator
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Podcast Guest Mentor
Dr. Lois Zachary
Dr. Lois Zachary is an internationally recognized expert on mentoring and the founder of Leadership Development Services, LLC, and its Center for Mentoring Excellence. She has been cited as “one of the top 100 minds in leadership” today. You’ve likely seen mention of Dr. Zachary’s books, or read her quotes, in The New York Times, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, Financial Times, Inc. magazine, T&D, Leadership Excellence, The Chronicle of Higher Education, or other business and leadership news outlets.
Lois J. Zachary earned her doctorate in adult and continuing education from Columbia University and earned master’s degrees from Columbia University and Southern Illinois University. She is the author of multiple books on mentoring. Her first book, The Mentor’s Guide (2000), has become a primary resource for organizations interested in promoting mentoring for leadership and learning and for mentors seeking to deepen their mentoring practice. With Creating a Mentoring Culture (2005), The Mentee’s Guide (2009), the second edition of The Mentor’s Guide (2012), Starting Strong (2014), Five Mentoring Excellence Pocket Toolkits, and hundreds of articles and blogs, Lois has created a comprehensive set of resources for promoting her lifetime passion: mentoring excellence for individuals and organizations.
Lois’s innovative mentoring approaches and her expertise in helping leaders and organizations design, implement and evaluate learner-centered mentoring programs have been used globally by a wide array of clients, including Fortune 100 companies, NGOs, government organizations, educational institutions, and numerous profit and nonprofit entities.
Dr. Lois Zachary and her daughter Lisa Fain 
are a powerful entrepreneurial mentoring team. Dr. W. Brad Johnson, a Professor of Psychology at the U.S. Naval Academy and Faculty Associate at Johns Hopkins University, says of Dr. Zachary and Lisa, today’s Mentor Guests, are “luminaries in the mentoring field.”
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Episode 340: 4 Key Concepts to Bridging Differences with Dr. Lois Zachary
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