Episode Notes

Move the dial on how you lead this week. Expand your intrinsic value. Power over others is an ‘old school’ psychological template for world domination through mass control. The institutional playbook for concealing the truth in the Catholic Church is a prime example of this psychological template asserting mass control through manipulation, lies, and deceit. It is not the way our modern world is set-up.

As we witness the ‘old school’ shame-based leadership structures around the world reluctantly collapse, new building blocks for this modern age are emerging with innovative leaders doing the inner work, rising up, and leading the way. I imagine you are somewhere along the continuum between exercising power over and exerting power from within. Today, you can explore a way to move the dial inward and increase your intrinsic value. Listen deeply to our conversation. Download

All of us have experienced shame-based leadership structures where others have exerted power over us. It is what we know. We know how to feel crappy and out of control, rebellious. There is plenty of self-loathing to feed our world population. Our value has been diminished and our psyches damaged. If you are a sexual abuse survivor, your journey to resurrect your soul is even longer.

To increase our value, we need to know our value. To know our value we need to go through the slow deliberate process of healing shame that temps us to tether to fear, the familiar, and silence instead of igniting our curiosity to build power from within and expand our intrinsic value. This is how the shame-based leadership structure of exerting power over is being replaced by exerting power from within. As we progress in our healing and let go of the ‘old school’ power structure, we can carve out a leadership style and leadership structure more fitting for our modern age. We can then prepare the next generation to lead from a ‘shame-free’ psychological structure. Progress not perfection.

Debbie Unterman, a skilled clinical hypnotherapist, joins us to explain how cognitive dissonance can be used as a strategy to heal confusing perceptions that stem from poisonous pedagogy and the strategies used to conceal the truth. Our conversation is not meant to insult faith-believers. We are believers ourselves. Debbie is Jewish. Mike Kabeya and I grew-up Catholic.

We are talking about the institutional leadership structure, a playbook implemented before we were born, and without our consent (listen to podcast episodes 1 & 2 below, for the report details). We are sorting out our feelings of manipulation, the turmoil in our psyches, and trying to figure out where we have been intellectually deceived; by what teachings. We discuss atonement, Original sin, who goes to heaven and hell, to name a few topics. Mike asks the question, how have we entertained stupidity? Debbie helps us sort some of this out. You don’t want to miss this!

As a leader, I am still wrapping my head around the magnitude of how a faith-based institution has raised so many priests who have been allowed to prey on our children, worldwide! If truth telling increases ones intrinsic value. Healing expands it, exponentially. Join us in this modern age of meaningful conversation. Debbie ends our conversation with this perceptive quote from Alice Miller, psychoanalyst and psychotherapist, about childhood.

The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body. And, although we can repress it. We can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived. Our feelings manipulated, our perceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication, but some day the body will present its bill for it is as incorruptible as a child who still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses. And it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.” (For Your Own Good, 1980)

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